How to Last Longer In Bed: Tips To Delay Ejaculation

Martha Kempner - Writer And Sexual Health Expert

5 min read - July 12, 2023

Having sex is a bit like looking for a new house. You always hope for something more. More space, a better location, or… more pleasure and the ability to last longer in bed.

The truth is most men come to soon from time to time. But if it happens regularly, it becomes a problem for you and your partner. Find something to help you last longer – from edging techniques to special devices to delay ejaculation.


How Long Should Sex Last?

Most men want to last longer in bed, but how long is enough? On average, heterosexual couples have intercourse lasting 5.4 minutes. According to American and Canadian sex therapists “adequate” intercourse lasts between three and seven minutes for heterosexual couples. If you get in the seven-to-thirteen-minute range, your duration is already in the “desired” category.

If you usually climax within one or two minutes from the beginning of penetration, you may have suffer from premature ejaculation. Anything above is a matter of your body’s abilities and your preferences. Some couples like to have longer intercourse. For others, oral stimulation, kissing, and caressing are as important.

How to Last Longer in the Bedroom - Tips for delaying ejaculation

If you would like to prolong intercourse, there are some life and sex hacks you might try. Experiment and see what works for you and your lover. But don’t put too much pressure on yourself! The key is to have fun while doing it.
The in2 device is ideal perfect for trying something new.

Get Your Timing Right

Remember when you were a teenager, and you could hardly keep yourself from ejaculating the second you saw an erotic picture or film? As a grown up you may be able to last longer in bed, but timing is still important.

Don’t start intercourse when you’re super aroused. Wait this initial excitement out, focusing on your partner. Aim to start penetration when you’re in that middle range of arousal. Not too little and not too much. This way you can build it up and gain precious minutes.

Put a Condom on It

Condoms are probably not your favorite accessory, but they are necessary for sexual health and well-being, especially if you’re not in a monogamous relationship. But even if you are, putting on a condom can help you last longer in bed.

Some men think that wearing two condoms at once will help them delay ejaculation, but this is not the best idea. Better buy thicker condoms, for example, ones designed for anal sex.

Make Friends With Lube

Another simple trick is to add more lubricant for penetrative intercourse. It will reduce the intense sensation of thrusting that can quickly get you over the edge. Remember that if you’re using latex condoms, you shouldn’t mix them with oil-based lubricants.

There are special gels and creams for climax control but be careful with those. First, they can be transferred to your partner, limiting her or his sensations. They work by numbing your penis, so yes, you may last a bit longer, but it will come at a price of pleasure.

Identify Your Triggers

Most people think being a great lover requires excellent looks and sexual stamina. But awareness is your true power in the bedroom. Premature ejaculation happens because you’re not paying attention to your body's signals.

Learning to identify the point of no return – the moment when you can’t stop the orgasm from coming. It will help you gain more control during intercourse. Start outside the bedroom. Get a meditation app for your phone. Sign up for a yoga class. Learning the basics of mindfulness will be very useful during sex.

Move Into Position

Have you ever noticed that actors constantly change sexual positions in porn films? Giving you the best view of the action is only one reason behind it. It’s also a trick to last longer.

When you make love to your partner, try switching positions at least once or twice. It forces you to slow down, take a short break, and rearrange your body. Your arousal will subside, and you will delay ejaculation. You may also alternate between penetration and oral sex.

Some sexual positions can help prolong intercourse. Choose the ones that make it difficult for you to do fast thrusting (for example, spooning position). Other great options give your partner more control, for example, the cowgirl position.

Master New Moves

Learning how to last longer in bed naturally means expanding your sexual repertoire. Get creative and find new ways to have intercourse. Your partner will love them too! Here’s what you can try:

  • Shallow penetration.
  • Stimulating your partner’s genitals with your penis but without going inside.
  • Allowing your partner to do all the moving.
  • Asking your partner to squeeze their pelvic floor muscles.

Talk to Your Partner - Tricks to last longer in bed

All those tips to prolong ejaculation are great to try, but they work best if you talk about them with your lover. As a man you probably like to figure things out on your own but remember – you’re in this together!

Lots of men have premature ejaculation because they get tense during sex. Sometimes all it takes to last longer in bed is to have an open conversation with your partner. Sharing your feelings is hard sometimes but when it’s done, you’ll feel much better.

Prescription-Free device to Last Longer in Bed

Working on your lovemaking skills is always a good idea, but sometimes you need a quick fix. in2 was designed to help you last longer in bed whenever needed.
This lightweight, wearable device uses your body's power to prolong intercourse. It boosts the contractions of pelvic floor muscles – the same muscles you use to stop urine flow. You can get the clinically proven in2 without a prescription. Learn how it works here.